Brunching Awesome...

A few weeks ago a friend of mine asked when our girl gang could get together. Because I'm in school and funds are tight, I suggested we change the date. Well that changed into cooking at our friends house. I love cooking for those that I love. Sharing the kitchen with someone is my love language so I was fully on board.

I've talked about this crew before, and the close bond that we have, open conversations is our forte. We talk about everything under the sun. Literally. The conversation flows from our favorite rom coms, to masturbation and everything in between. We ask simple questions like, what's new, to bigger questions like our relationships, health problems, therapy, everything!

As a young girl, I ached for friends that you could spend all day with. Finally at 30, it happened! We started at 11am, cooked brunch together, we talked around the table, and somehow meandered to the couch. We turned on a movie, cuddled up under blankets and enjoyed. Its so funny how quickly we can get distracted from the movie. We took pictures for our businesses. We talked about the weird neighbor who likes to walk around his balcony with no pants on, and no undies. We talk about our goals and hairy armpits.

The reason why it works, we are not threatened by each other. We talk about frustrations, fears, apprehensions, we ask for advice or a point of view. Next thing we knew, it was 6 o'clock and we were all hungry again. So we ordered pizza. We watched 3 movies, and an episode of Queer Eye.

We spent the day relaxed yet empowered because, again, there is no threat. I think the key to our friendship is the acceptance of one another. We are not competing against each other in any way. We each have our own realm of life that we are working in, and because of that we can empathize, and be a source of information. We are the unwavering support system for each other.

That is why brunch can turn into an 8 hour snuggle sesh. We have chosen to take care of ourselves, and to be the type of support that we are seeking. We each practice self care, we have put work into ourselves and the results are lasting friendships. One of our friends is possibly moving, and we are planning on visiting. Its not even a question.

Have you heard the saying, you attract the energy you put out? Without putting work into myself, I would not have the friends that I have today. We can appreciate each others strengths, and growth. My friend paid me the most beautiful complement. She said she likes watching me cook because its like a dance. When she eats my food it feels like love. Yes of course I got teary eyed. We don’t hold back on the complements, and if there is critique or answering a question its given with love.

We each have our own endeavors in life, and the critiques are necessary but they are delivered with love and support. They are open to conversation, the answer is not a one and done. We can ask because we know the answers are given with the utmost respect. They are said with the idea of growth in mind. They are not to be mean or cut each other down to get ahead. Its fun when our businesses overlap. It's also amazing to see the growth, or our plans comes to fruition.

I wish all day brunch was a normal thing. But as life happens, we have to grasp at any time together that we can. If you can, just enjoy the moment. Don't rush or define your brunch. Was the plan movie after movie? No! But it happened and it was beautiful.